Dating 4 years no commitment

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Recently he admitted that he’s afraid of letting his guard down, afraid of rejection, afraid of getting his heart broken into pieces, of liking someone more than she likes him.

We always talk about the downsides of relationships, but the bottom line is that while I have been in relationships for the last 20 years, he has been single for at least 12.

So instead, he throws little bits out there to the ones he is really attracted to but then runs away, thereby avoiding rejection. He’s afraid of losing himself, afraid of losing control, afraid of losing the upper hand, afraid of rejection and, in return, he gets his needs met by having one-night stands and “f*ck buddies,” no-strings-attached and “friends with benefits” scenarios.

He flirts and gives his phone numbers to girls he has no intention of calling, unless its just for sex. I call this a fear of commitment — and he is not alone.

He says he is happy being single, and for the most part he really truly is. Fear of commitment is just a self-protective mechanism, a tough exterior, a mask made for the manliest of men (and lotsa ladies too) to hide from and — in some case — bury the sensitive, vulnerable side which ultimately must reveal itself in order to fully give and receive love in a way that truly matters.

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